When Trauma Becomes "State-Addiction"

There’s a certain point we get to in our growth where trauma can become an addiction.

Yes, trauma is real, and yes, it’s nothing to be minimized or trivialized.

However, if we use the “severity” of trauma as a blanket statement to rationalize our state addiction to trauma, and the permission it gives us to avoid responsibility or ownership of our actions/impact, we will never experience the freedom, pleasure, or power of choice that many of us espouse as our virtues.

There is a certain level we get to on the Path where we actually have cultivated the tools, awareness, resource, and ability to let go of the trauma and release from our system.

The question is, are we willing to let go of the comfort we’ve come to associate with the security blanket of our own self-nurtured fragility?

Ultimately, each of us needs to make the decision for ourselves when self-compassion becomes coddling and avoidance of the next level of our own awakening.

My writing speaks to those who are at a place in their healing and evolution where they realize that trauma is something that can be released from the body if we choose it.

I honor the whole spectrum of healing around trauma, and I by no means wish to minimize any of the process of moving from victim to freedom, from disempowerment to creatorship.

Every stage is necessary.

We are all walking around with various degrees of trauma in our bodies that we will continue to release until the day we die.

However, the key nuance I seek to speak to through my work and writing is the sneaky place within us that can become attached to our trauma or try to hide behind it is a way of avoiding having to own embrace the power and vulnerability necessary to change our experience.

I no longer have an interest in coddling or colluding with that sneaky place within me, because I desire to embrace higher and higher levels of pleasure and ecstatic connection in my life, which is correlarily dependent upon the level of self-ownership and sovereignty I am willing to cultivate within myself on an emotional, energetic, and somatic level.

This is a core practice with clean love, which is a core principle in The Cosmic Tantra Community.

The willingness to make the distinction between acknowledging trauma as an inherent part of life that we learn to be in relationship with, versus using trauma as an excuse to avoiding taking the driver seat in our life.

I know the conversation of trauma is highly nuanced, and that I am speaking to a “niche” so-to-speak within the realm of trauma and personal growth.

This conversation is not black and white.

I understand this is controversial. I’m okay with that.

I love you.

Arielle

Writings from the Big Island